Yeah, I decided to only have one blog and I’m going to switch over to the other one… combine both of them together.. I’m going to see how that works out for me… see you on the other blog!
A Child. A party. A celebration. Nothing?
In Personal on July 28, 2008 at 3:32 pmThe subject of “parties” and “celebration” came up concerning Andres. I’m not a person who really likes parties, much less throw one. I like get-togethers with a small number of people and going out. My mother-in-law is a Jehova’s Witness and so she doesn’t do parties. Today was my husband’s nephew’s birthday and his parents threw him a little something at Chuck E Cheese. Of course she didn’t go, although she did say she was going to go, I think she would feel bad going when she’s not suppose to go.
Anyway, My husband’s aunt asked if we would celebrate Andres’ birthday, and my mother-in-law, forgetting that he’s my son, not hers, said no, of course not. But I said yes. She looked at me and said, well it’s up to the parents, if they want to throw him a birthday party then okay, but I’m not going to go, I’m not even going to his wedding (now she’s thinking way ahead, he’s only 7 months old!) I’m not going to disrespect Jehova just for something like this. She said it a bit… weird, I guess. Kind of like trying to make us feel bad? But I don’t feel bad.
I have to ask my husband about this. I want to know how he feels because it is his son and I don’t want to disrespect him. He grew up without going to parties or participating in class parties/celebrations. I wonder how he felt as a little kid seeing everyone celebrating and he couldn’t because his mother send them a card saying that he is not to participate. I don’t know, but to me it’s sad because a child should have fun. I would think he’d want him to have fun, but I don’t know how he feels about it. He’s not a Jehova’s Witness no more he says, but depending on how one grows up, i think, they are still going to have some beliefs that will stay with them.
I understand what my mother-in-law means by “it doens’t need to be his birthday or christmas to give something”. Of course it doesn’t need to be. I understand. But what I want is for him to have some fun, especially because kids are always talking about their birthdays and I don’t want him to feel bad and think that we don’t want to give him anything on his birthday. I don’t know if that’s how Jehova’s Witness kids feel like that or not. I’d have to ask my husband.
What do you guys think about this? Is there any reader out there who is a Jehova’s Witness? Or anyone who isn’t?
Babysitters Shouldn’t be Strangers
In Personal on July 22, 2008 at 5:33 pmI cannot believe I have been neglecting my blog for a week already, I told myself I was going to blog at least twice a week, but I just haven’t really been able to. It’s the last week of the first summer session and I’ve had stuff to turn in and I’ve started preparing for finals since yesterday, but I thought I’d take a few minutes and blog, to get my mind feeling nice and relax.
Time is passing by so quickly, Andres is already seven months. I feel like he was just born yesterday. I remember the first time I saw him, the feeling I felt when I first attached him to my breast, and the same feeling I continue to have every single time I breast feed him. These past five weeks I haven’t been able to breast feed him as much and I miss it, but I’m glad he takes the bottle, I know he won’t starve or wait for me. Although he does seem to be so exited when he sees me get home.
I see him and run to the bathroom to wash my hands from the bacteria of the bus, and as soon as he sees that I am leaving he starts crying for me to return and not leave him again. Sometimes I feel bad, but I know that he’s in good hands with his daddy and grandma. It gives me much relief knowing that he’s not under a stranger’s care. Strangers, I believe, will never take care of a baby or child as well as someone who knows him or her and is in very close (and I mean very close) relation to him.
There are very few people who should take care of a child; very few people who have patience and love for children. I remember one time in the shop my husband works in a lady came in with three children. Two of them were hers and the other was a child she was taking care of. She spoke ill about this little girl. Saying that she misbehaved, she was always bad and always dirty. The little girl was playing with the baby, waving his rattle-like toy in front of him while he smiled. The other girl (the lady’s child) was telling her not to touch it, to leave it alone because it’s her baby brother’s toy. The girl didn’t pay any attention to her and continue to play with him. Then the girl shouted to her mother, telling her that she had taken the boy’s toy and she’s playing with it. The mother yelled at her to behave and sit down like a good girl, to leave his toy alone and not take it away from him. Then she turned to my mother-in-law and said see what I tell you? She doesn’t behave. My mother in law didn’t pay any attention to her she just continued to do her work.
Then there are those that physically abuse, not just children but babies as well. And that’s what hits me a lot because babies can’t talk, they can’t say anything, they can’t tell you what’s wrong and if the babysitter is taking good care of them.
Anyway, he’s in good hands. I have to go back to preparing for finals.
