My husband is a barber and he works in his mother’s Beauty Salon, and THAT is why he (with his mother) is able to take care of our little one while I’m at school. Thank God we do not have to have a strange babysitter. Anyway, at what I’m getting at, I was washing some of my husband’s combs when I overheard what a lady who works there said to my mother-in-law:
“Don’t you [meaning any of us] put him in his walker? He’s almost seven months, he should be crawling already, and just about ready to walk”
I’m wondering, well first of all I’m the mother, I don’t understand why she’s not telling me or my husband, why the grandma? Second of all, my son has his walker, I always put him in there, but he doesn’t reach the floor yet, what am I to do? I couldn’t say anything because I know my mother-in-law, she always says to listen and be quiet, she doesn’t like us (my husband and I) to get involved with anyone, whatever the reason may be. I have to respect her, after all it IS her shop.
Anyway, there I went again- off what I was getting at, are we holding our baby too much? I don’t know if I’m holding my baby too much, but sometimes it’s just easier for me to hold him than to leave him be. It’s not that I don’t want to leave him be and become independent, it’s just that the house is big and I have so much to do; I’m constantly going there, here and up and down, and I’m not about to leave him in a room unattended. I don’t think it’s safe to leave him alone. So now he wants to be in arms all the time. I put him down so I can wash the dishes and he starts crying. I’m sure this is all our fault. He’s almost going to be seven months, should he be crawling already?
I remember his doctor told me that he is fine and by now, six months, he should be just about to sit, or just sitting (and that is exactly where he was). So those people who say their babies did everything early, are they pushing them too fast? Or are they helping them? By carrying him, are we holding him back from reaching his potential?
Don’t panic…
Don’t get into the comprison game. It is very hard, but each child is so very different. We laugh now about how we are with our third compared to the first two.
Some babies do not like “tummy time”. This is how they learn to crawl. Our does more rolling around the house and no crawling. He is getting ready to crawl…but he isn’t here yeat. MY first son was about 7 months and my daugther at 7 1/2 when they started crawling.
Just love your child, the rest will come naturally. There are a lot of parents who do not love and care for their children like you and your husband care for yours and they are all walking and talking just fine.
Try to relax and have fun with him. Crawling, and the other skills will come soon enough and you will long for the days when you could carry him around.
Thanks a lot… I”ll TRY not to panic.:D
Darling
just enjoy your baby ok
I understand your discomfort and worry
Young mom with a young baby
You will learn whole lot along the way
Believe me
Just dont loose your judgement
And bull to the idea that holding baby too much is bad
No TOO MUCH LOVE will spoil babies!!
in fact we should give them TOO MUCH LOVE
Do whatever both you and hubby wish
For in no time at all
They will be grown ups already…
my 2 cent
well, if there is one thing I’ve learned from my four, it’s that every baby is different. They’re going to do what they’re going to do when they are ready to do it. My Ella was sitting around 5-6 months, crawling around 8 months, maybe 9, and walking now at 13 months. She hated tummy time –HATED it– and would roll around to get to something rather than crawl. And I say phooey to anyone who says you can hold a baby too much. Believe me when I say that soon enough he won’t want you to hold him at all. He will lunge out of your arms and want to roam and explore. Hold him while you can!
Take people’s comments with a grain of salt. I mean listen to them, consider them, and then make your own judgements. You are your child’s expert. You will know in your gut what is right or wrong for him. Take care, and good luck!
My advice is do what you are doing and what makes you feel comfortable. Your baby was inside you for 9 months hearing your heartbeat and being warm and snuggled. He will continue to enjoy that for several more months, and then he will be independent and probably never want you to hold him again! With my first, we worried a lot, too. People told us not to carry him too much and a lot of other nonsense. With my second child, I carried him everywhere for at least 11 months. I mean, that boy went to the bathroom with me, cooked with me, and even slept in the bed with us. He started walking earlier than our first, talked sooner and better, is more in-tune with the family, and is way more independent. Just do what feels right.
Thank you so much for commenting… reading other peoples opinions really helps me a lot, especially those experienced ones… some say don’t hold him, but i want to… i guess you guys are right. I will do what feels right.
Babies advance at their own pace. Walkers are a relatively recent invention. We don’t need them to learn to walk – it comes naturally. As well as that, there are the apalling accident statistics that come with walkers. I refuse to have one in the house.